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Finding Your Authentic Self After Abuse

It seems like every time I take a break from this blog, I am eventually pulled back. I open my phone, and on social media I hear the words ‘be...

Sticks And Stones May Break My Bones, But Words Will Never Harm Me. Ummm Okay…

It’s funny, I’ve been stewing on this now for over a week. This weird uneasy feeling nestled into my stomach. It’s a feeling I’ve not experienced for a while, but...

A Decade Of Freedom: Surviving The Aftermath Of Domestic Abuse

This week will be one that will forever be etched into my memory. The date is Monday 19th July 2010 and I am talking to my mum and dad on...

Oh To Be Young, And In Love

Did you know, the most recent crime survey for England and Wales found that 12.6% of girls aged 16-19 experienced domestic abuse in the past year, and 6.6% of boys....

Domestic Abuse & The Family Courts: A Survivors Side Of The Story

I’ll never forget the way I felt every time I sat on the train making my way into London for a court hearing. A cold dread creeping into my guts,...

Running From Domestic Abuse: Finding Refuge

As I walked in to the office for my first day at my new job as a refuge worker last Monday, a job I have thought about applying for many times...

Are you OK?

As I hit publish and sent my first book out into the world two months ago, never did I think a couple of weeks later we would all be in...

New Endings

It’s been almost two years since I first started my blog, and today with this, my twentieth post, I will finish it. Two years ago my head and heart felt...

Making New Memories

I write this post, sitting aboard a British Airways flight, plastic cup of water in front of me and shaking hands. I’m scared of flying you see, I’m not scared...

Finding Freedom- part two

You’ve left. You’re out. You’re free… Or are you? What happens next? Is that it? Does life return to the way it was before you met your abuser? One of...

Finding Freedom - part one

Leaving an abusive relationship is only the beginning. It’s what comes next that can be the hardest part. Staying away from your abuser if you are still in love with...

I am enough

Self esteem is something that so many of us struggle with. I met a lady the other day who could quite happily say out loud, ‘I am fabulous.’ Apart from...

Finding Her Again

An abuser will not only endeavour to take his victims self worth, control of her own decisions, life choices and confidence, he will also try to take away all of...

The power of fear

One of the main reasons for my staying put was the very thought of trying to leave and knowing what that would mean. To people on the outside, or those...